Appearances are deceitful, so a well-known saying states. Have you ever noticed how true and really wise folk wisdom, actually, is? People could always find and stress the most essential part, the core of any thing. Furthermore, they managed to put it in a very short and laconic way. I am talking about proverbs, sayings, aphorisms, and so on.
During my whole life (though, I am not that old yet) I had many chances to make sure of the peoples wisdom veracity and start believing it.
This time I can recall only one situation from my life to explain why I trust different proverbs.
I had a friend at school. He was a very shy, kind, and reserved fellow. At the same time, everyone could always count on him, share any problems with him, and find support and understanding. To cut it short, Jake was a real, loyal, and trustworthy friend.
These days I accuse myself guilty of feeling not only friendship, but sympathy for him at the first place. The matter was that Jake had had severe acne on his face almost since childhood. Now I understand that he needed no sympathy. But I justify myself with the fact that I was just a silly and naïve girl at that time, for whom any pimple seemed to be a huge problem.
Anyway, Jake and I entered the college together keeping our friendship alive during all the years of studying. Jake was not much of a talker, especially about his own life; therefore, we never said a word about his acne. And I was tactful and considerate enough not to show him my sympathy and my attitude to his skin condition (thank God, I was wise at least at that aspect!).
The time passed by. I met a nice boy, who later became my husband. Perhaps, it was not only destiny that we found each other, but Jakes merit too, because he and my future husband were friends at that time.
My boyfriend and I were chattering about all and nothing during one of our dates, and I mentioned occasionally that, though Jake was a very good friend, it would be very difficult for him to find a girl, because he was so shy due to his appearance. My future husband was so much surprised to hear that, and assured me that Jake had no the tiniest problem in his private intimate life. On the contrary, he was always a success with women and never suffered from loneliness. I must have been among those few girls, who did not feel his charm and fascination, because I knew him for ages and treated him as a friend only.
Then I understood how blind and, actually, silly I was. In the long run, Jakes life became one more vivid example to me, proving that appearance has nothing to do with luck, happiness, love affairs, and success. What really matters is in the soul of every person. Kindness, tenderness, responsiveness, ability to understand and help people, to make friendship, which can last life-long - these have always been the most precious things of the human kind, and I believe, they always will be, no matter what.
Anna Eve
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